“Hopeless is hopeless, and don’t ever think that it ain’t”
Boy
oh Boy,
published by Pearson Education Australia, is authored by Dr Tim Hawkes.
That 'Hopeless expression' maybe one of the catchphrases in the novel but for a
boy to not despair then hope needs to reside somewhere. Boys need hope. When things go wrong, mistakes
are made and even justifiable blame is apportioned boys still need hope.
“What is also important is that having suggested the blame and diagnosed the origin of the problem, the boy must be left feeling he is valued, safe and possessed of the necessary skill and inclination to avoid the mistake again.”Dr Tim Hawkes
So what drives a boy to learn?
- He must be encouraged to learn.
- Believe in a future that requires learning.
- Believe in his teachers.
But what discourages learning, beyond the opposite of the
aforementioned?
It is the boy’s self-esteem. Or there lack of. If a boy is
continually told he has behavioural issues or his thoughts and ideas are
substandard then this will foster a negative self-image, which in term hinders
long term self-esteem; which will prevent the brain from furthering knowledge
and understanding.
Parents, caregivers and teachers must give as much
affirmation as possible but Dr Tim Hawkes warns against ungrounded optimism or
care-free praising as the boy will see through it eventually and no longer lean
on that person’s judgement again.
In short we must blame boys where blame is true and
necessary. We give boys a hope and future for improvement and growth.
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